THREE LESSONS TO TEACH YOUR TEEN:
1. Protect Yourself: Sexting/Picture Requests
Why do teens SEXT?
Teens who say they have sent or posted a sexually revealing photo or video:
• 22% of teen girls
• 18% of teen boys
Teens that have sent sexually suggestive messages:
• 37% of teen girls
• 40% of teen boys
• 48% admit to receiving suggestive messages
Who Teens are sending sexually suggestive images and messages to:
Results Concluded the three main scenarios for sexting:
How does it affect their present and their future?
Sexting has also received a lot of attention in the courtroom. In some states, sexting is a punishable offense and falls in with child pornography. It doesn't even matter if it's the teen's own photo they posted or not. If it's a picture of a minor, then there's a problem. In some states, if a teen's found guilty of child pornography he/she will have to register as a convicted sex offender that can adversely impact their future (e.g., college admission and obtaining a job).
Because sexting has become so popular amongst teens, many states have enacted specific laws that address sexting by minors under the age of 18, or even 17 in some cases. Many more states are considering legislation that establishes penalties for minors, which include warnings, fines, probation and detention.
In states without specific sexting legislation (Indiana), the possession of sexually explicit material portraying minors falls under child pornography laws that have the potential to result in felony charges registration as a sex offender.
How do we help our teens to say no?
2. Protect Your Boundaries: Dating Violence does not always look violent
Why do teens feel the need to control their significant other’s activities on social media?
Many teens do not consider excessive monitoring as problematic, but rather commonplace. Some argue that excessive monitoring is becoming the new norm for teens in dating relationships. This means that it's possible a teenager might feel slighted if a romantic partner doesn’t monitor his or her whereabouts. While many adults would consider such monitoring a form of psychological abuse, teenagers can and often do look at it very differently.
When asked about their partner’s expectations for their own communication, a similar pattern emerges.
• 15% say they are expected to check in hourly.
• 38% are expected to do so every few hours.
• 35% are expected to do so once a day.
5% of teen daters report that a former partner checked up on them multiple times per day AFTER their relationship ended.
Things They Require of Each Other:
After the Relationship Ends:
How do we help our teens to set boundaries?
3. Protect Your Future: Choices today will affect your future
Why do teens struggle with the “big picture?”
With a societal emphasis on the end result, most teens lose sight on what the big picture actually is. They are routinely confronted with people who are have earned the admiration of their respective communities, but are seldom exposed to the process these persons took to be where they are in their lives. Sometimes, the mainstream media will expose us to the stories of struggles experienced by some public figures, but it usually feels like the underlying theme suggests that people should not experience struggle, and those that do are extraordinary. That said they can miss the importance of the smaller, day to day decisions and ONLY focus on the end result.
How do we help them to think ahead with their choices?
WRITTEN BY Amy Hanna