One of the ways that I describe an emotional attachment is this: Pretend you have a red construction paper heart and a blue construction paper heart. You put glue on both hearts and stick them together and let them dry. What's going to happen when you try to tear these two hearts apart? ~A little bit of blue is going to be left on the red and a little bit of red is going to be left on the blue. This is called an attachment.
In a relationship, it works very similarly. As you share more intimate details about your life with the other person, you are also sharing bits of your heart. The more intimate details and the more conversations, the more emotional attachment is occuring. Throw sexual acts into the mix and it's like giving a BIG CHUNK of your heart to the other person. The more sexual activity (and it doesn't just have to be sex) that enters into the relationship, the more difficult it will be to get over that person if there is a break up. This is why you see couples that have broken up, but still can't get over the other person...or keep running back to the other person. They are still emotionally attached.
So, how do you prevent emotional ties in the future? We are emotional beings, so preventing any emotional ties from happening is going to be near impossible. However, you can prevent how severe the ties are:
So, what if those emotional ties are strangling you? Here are a few tips to help you out:
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WRITTEN BY Amy Hanna